February 25, 2013

Taught to Dislike our Parents?

Hey Team, 

I was having a conversation with some of my favorite people today, Tom and Carmen, in the ASUU office. (Honestly, it's my second home.) Tom said that over the long weekend he was watching the classic Back to the Future with his son Sam, who is ten. But Tom had a conversation with Sam even before the movie started. Now, you are thinking to yourself, "Why would you need to have a conversation about the movie? Sure, there's probably some swearing, but that's about it." 
But Tom was talking to his son about the Parent/Child Relationship in the film. Marty McFly doesn't have the perfect relationship with his parents, and let's be honest who does? But when we look at the media we have been fed, reaching all the way back to the James Dean classic Rebel without a Cause, was this the beginning of everyone hating their parents?

Now, to be fair, there is the polar opposite example if we look at early 90’s shows, like Boy Meets World, or Full House. It doesn't give the impression that they are necessarily a perfect family, but you sure knew the problems were about to be solved when the cheesy music came on, and Bob Saget came into the perfectly decorated girls room, sat on the bed, and reassured DJ, Michelle, or Stephanie about what to do.
So maybe we should all be hoping for some kind of happy medium. When I think of the classic 80’s Brat Pack movies such as Pretty in Pink, or Some Kind of Wonderful there are good and bad examples of parenting. In The Breakfast Club though, we never meet the teens parents, we only hear about them.(and they are pretty awful, depending on the character) 

Therefore, I've concluded that it really depends on the decade you are looking at. I personally don’t know what it is like to be a parent, only a child. So if I ever get the chance, it’ll most likely be eye opening, and as John my Dad always says, “It’s the best thing that ever happened to me.” 

The thing to remember is that your parents are human. They aren't perfect, and sometimes as a kid you place them on a pedestal, and not until you reach your teens, or early twenties do you realize that they weren't as close to superman as you originally thought. Also, they might not have the best examples to follow from their own parents, and their marriages. All we can each do is accept them, and not play the blame game when we have imperfections we either have or “inherited.”

For me, my parents are a mix of crazy and wonderful. Just like me. I've seen John lose his parents, and the circle completed once more when he held Penny, his granddaughter, for the first time. Acceptance is key, for self and yes, even your parents. It doesn't come easily, but it can happen. 

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